The world turned toward morning

Where the fuck is all this ‘heteroromantic aces can’t call themselves queer’ BS coming from?

UGH I have had this argument too many times but.

Yes.

Yes they can. And fuck anyone who feels like identity policing that.

Don’t give me that ‘they’re seen as normal by society’ BS. I’ve heard of asexuals in this situation being referred to doctors for their sexuality, like it’s an illness or needs fixing. They’re often assumed to be in the closet and gay, and they bear a lot of shit from that, too. I know people who will outright say they don’t exist. You ever had a load of people tell you that you don’t exist? It’s not nice. So what, when someone does it to me as someone who is polysexual/bisexual, people get all up in arms over it, but it’s not bad enough discrimination if we do it to someone who is an asexual heteroromantic?

And when the fuck did queer become about who is the most oppressed? You know, I’m lucky. I have incredibly accepting parents and friends and the privilege of ignoring those who do not accept me a lot of the time. So tell me, do I ‘deserve’ queer as a label less than those who get thrown out of their homes for their sexuality or their gender? Hm? What about the people in places much more liberal or whatever than mine; do I ‘deserve’ queerness more than them?

It’s BS. Society does not talk about heteroromantic asexuality on a regular basis, or acknowledge it; it is not routinely represented in the media; it is treated as abnormal and ‘evidence’ of sexual disfunction; it is conflated with other sexualities, like homosexuality; men are often told it makes them ‘weak’ and ‘not manly’ and women may be insulted for it if they don’t want to have sex because they’re supposed to be ‘on demand’. All these things mean it is not ‘the norm’, as it were. So it counts as queer if someone so wishes. End of.

Also: some asexual people do have sex, you tossers. Please stop saying they don’t. Attraction =/= the act itself, speaking as someone who has it the other way around and spends copious amounts of time eyeing people up without actually wanting it to go further.